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Wow, this video below is real Jewish mom drama! Untrained husband wants to perform his son’s bris. Jewish mom, what would YOU do?
WWYD if this was YOUR Husband?
April 14, 2010 by JewishMOM.com
April 14, 2010 by JewishMOM.com
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Wow, this video below is real Jewish mom drama! Untrained husband wants to perform his son’s bris. Jewish mom, what would YOU do?
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My husband did our baby’s brit and it was nerve-wracking. I made sure not to tell anyone that he was going to do it. I didn’t want anyone to make him nervous. We didn’t even talk about it. I just told him – Yes you can do it. I believe in you.
And then we moved on. BUT he NEVER would have insisted like this husband did … its not fair to put that on a women who has just given birth…
Oy poor mama!!! The brissim of my sons were the hardest thinge I’ve ever done. Personally, I can’t imagine consenting to my untrained husband on this issue.
My father in law is a mohel and my husband is a rav who has attended and assisted at dozens of britot. The husband is right. The mohel can prepare everything and the husband cuts. There is a metal shield, between the skin and the blade, really nothing can go wrong. Many mohelim offer the father to do the final cut but they do ALL the preperation.
I think it is unwise to have votes on this issue. Why should we side with either one against the other? We should be working to bring them together not to show who is right or wrong. Personally this is a hard mitzvah for the mom to do no matter who is doing the cutting. and yes there are things that can go wrong afterwards even with an experienced mohel. Each of them is taking a my way or no way approach which can be detrimental to their entire marriage! Someone should be mediating to bring them together not having surveys to see how others side! With a brand new baby we should be helping them not putting them up for public display.
I agree with Hadassah. At this point it’s a shalom bayis issue. Our opinions are not important – they need a counselor to speak to them to help them reach a decision that satisfies both of them. Perhaps if the mohel comes over to their house & demonstrated EXACTLY what her husband would be doing, that might put her mind at ease because it sounds like he has his mind made up regardless of what she says. Oy! Marriage ain’t easy! I wish them both hatzlacha & yiddishe nachas from their mew little bundle of joy.